Couple Therapy
I am so honored to work alongside partners struggling to understand themselves, one another and how they landed in a relationship with the other. It's no accident! For some couples, a tweak in communication and attention to the emotional connection and they are on their way! For others, the couple has been lost for many months or years and both need help finding their way back to the other. In long term relationships, it is common for couples to lose sight of their partner and how to take good care of them. I work to build security, learn new ways to be pro-relationship and increase the overall satisfaction and connection within the couple.
I see both same sex and heterosexual couples-- dating, living together, recommitment or married. Some couples are partnered up and struggling to manage their relationship ambivalence, a new child or hoping to metabolize a recent or previous betrayal. Meanwhile, others are managing work-life balance, taking care of aging or ill parents or transitioning into a blended family. Most couples seek a place to learn about themselves and their partner. A space where the couple is welcome and encouraged to try new things, feel vulnerable, empowered, silly and connected, and maybe to even have a few laughs along the way.
I help couples understand the dynamic that contributes to their pain, loneliness, disconnect and separation and find ways for the couple to get ahead of the pattern and function securely with one another. I see many couples who are dealing with post affair issues, betrayal and questioning whether or not healing and recovery is possible. I work to make sense of what happened and to help clients decide if the betrayal is something that can be integrated into the relationship.
Specialities and Areas of Expertise:
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Increased Connection and Intimacy
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Understanding and Healing from Affairs
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Attachment and Family of Origin (and impact on the relationship)
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Death of a Parent (and impact on the relationship)
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Parenting (and impact of children on the relationship)
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Premarital or Precommitment
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Separation & Divorce
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Co-Parenting
My Approach is Influenced by:
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Stan Tatkin--Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT)
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Sue Johnson--Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
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Also, Esther Perel, Ellen Bader, John Gottman, Terry Real, Harville Hendrix and Shirley Glass
The depth of our love can be measured by our efforts. We demonstrate our love when we take that extra step.